The power of good manners is not to be underestimated. In a world where everyone is racing against time, taking a few minutes out to extend some courtesy goes a long way. Championing the cause of good manners and etiquette is grooming expert Rukshana Eisa who shows how good manners come in handy in everyday life. In our exclusive four-part series, Eisa takes you through the code of conduct that you should be following in your professional, social and romantic life.
In the second part of our series, Rukshana Eisa takes us through the do’s and don’ts of dating. Here’s how you can impress with your impeccable manners!
Some people are all for good old chivalry and believe in a traditional old-fashioned romance. Of course, in today’s gender-equal society not everyone is comfortable with the old ways. So, do what works for you. If the gentleman offers to pick you up it’s your call to accept his offer or meet him directly at the restaurant. As for the bill, if your date insists on paying for it, then let him pick up the tab, but don’t take it as a given. Even if you have to split the bill with him, it’s fine.
Ordering wine at a restaurant
Dining at a restaurant can be tricky, moreso when it comes to ordering wine. Most people just bluff their way through it. Start with looking at the wine list and request the maitre d’ to help with a couple of suggestions for either a red or white wine. Once you make a choice, your waiter will bring over the bottle and show you the label before pouring a small amount of the wine into your glass to taste it. You need to first swirl the wine, then smell it (called nosing the wine) and finally sip it. Now, don’t just gulp it all at once because you need to roll it around your tongue before you swallow it. Few people are actual wine connoisseurs; most people just go through the motions and that’s all you need to do as well. If you don’t drink at all, then let someone else order the wine or you can just as easily leave it to the maitre d’ to take a call on it.
Running into an ex in public
Running into an ex in public really isn’t the end of the world, so you shouldn’t have a severe reaction. Be gracious and definitely acknowledge their presence because ignoring them would make things more awkward. Just a casual ‘hello’ or even a smile is good enough. If you receive a cold response or an angry look back, just ignore it and move along. You have been the bigger person and a lack of good manners on their part isn’t your problem anymore!
Rukshana Eisa is the founder and Managing Director of Image Inc, the Grooming and Etiquette school and author of THE GOLDEN CODE: Mastering The Art Of Social Success. She has been one of the official grooming and etiquette instructors at the Miss India training program for over a decade and worked with brand like IL&FS,Citibank, JP Morgan Chase, KPMG, Star TV, ITC group of hotels and L’Oreal among others.
Watch out for the third part of this series to know about the etiquette that should be followed while travelling.